Assertiveness

In relation to interviews, we have also studied three different kinds of communication:  aggressive, assertive, inhibit.

Aggressive communication consists on express your own right, feelings, needs and opinions in a freely way without taking into account others opinions.

On contrary, you have the inhibit communication which is considered  a passive communication where you do not express your feelings or opinions, in order to avoid conflict. You try to pleased others.

 Finally, the last one: the assertive, which is very important to live in a society. It is considered a combination of high self- stem  (feel confident with yourself), and having clear arguments in order to support your opinion. You cannot be aggressive defending your opinions.

Here there are several rules to be assertive:

1.    Respect myself

2.    Recognize my own needs

3.    Make clear my statements how I feel

4.    Allow myself to make mistakes

5.    Change my mind

6.    Ask for thinking time

7.    Allow myself to enjoy my successes

8.    Ask for what I want

9.    Recognize that I am not responsible for the behaviour of others

10. Respect others.